Cali Carter was a woman on a mission at the AVN Expo 2015. She was actively there everyday and working the Expo like a true professional should, in any industry. Obviously Cali has figured out: the more she turns on her shine and powers through the long hours at events/conventions like this, the more success she will encounter in her career in the adult industry. Thus, leading her to other opportunities that will allow her dreams to come true. Cali Carter is the kind of woman who will achieve success in whatever form she deems it(whether adult industry related or not).
Luck is preparation meeting opportunity and Cali Carter is definitely preparing for success and longevity in the industry.
After coming home from Las Vegas and the AVN Expo, Portland has felt so very small. The feeling of wanting to run had been flowing through my veins. On Sunday, I had to escape to Eugene if I was going to retain any of my sanity. When I am in Oregon and surrounded by small minded people I want to at least be near my family. There is something large to be said for the human factor in the equation of life. Especially after surviving the adult industry for years its importance is multiplied.
So long story short, I am back in front of my computer to catch up for a bit on my blog. My magazine column(Strip Club Journals Unbound) is finished for March. And I am Las Vegas bound this weekend for photos and fun.
May we all manifest our dreams!
“If art is to nourish the roots of our culture, society must set the artist free to follow his vision wherever it takes him.” ~John F. Kennedy
Being career minded is a key factor which separates individuals who succeed in the adult industry from the individuals who allow themselves to be used by the industry. The AVN Expo 2015, in Vegas, was a perfect example of this key factor. It was an extremely pleasant way to network and weed out individuals who use the industry as a way to get by. Rather than as a stepping stone to something greater. Being surrounded by so much active talent within the adult industry was a high I had never before experienced. The creativity and wisdom flowed through the convention unapologetically. If one is brave enough in their career to go against the grain, they are more likely to be open and understanding of others. Nothing like being judged for what you do, rather than who you are, to bring us all together.
The talent was not limited to the adult actors and models. It was shocking how much creative talent goes into the adult industry. Meeting radio, television, photography, and other media talent involved in covering the AVN Expo for the rest of the world to enjoy, made me realize the extreme fascination mainstream society has with the adult industry. Therefore, the work everyone in the adult industry puts forth is for the entertainment and enjoyment of others. This is another commonality that brings Everyone in the adult industry together. We all aim to please!
My AVN Expo adventure started on Wednesday night. The Expo had started Wednesday morning, but I had no real agenda other than to have fun and get writing material. Well, I never expected and could not have planed for a better all around experience. Within an hour of arriving Kevin Wilsonville Murphy(DJ at Treasures Las Vegas) informed me there was another DJ arriving late from Florida who I needed to meet, because he is the host of his own radio show, Adventures of the Mayor(www.TheMayorsclub.com). This is how networking in the adult industry works, it is not really something to be planned, it just happens when you place yourself in the right places and with the right people.
When I met Enrique Arellano(DJ at Solid Gold Fort Lauderdale and host of the radio show Adventures Of The Mayor), I had found my new best industry friend. He lives on the east coast. I live on the west coast. He does a radio show. I write a magazine column and blog. We differ enough in our media and location, yet still have the adult industry as our common focus. Teaming up to cover the AVN Expo only made sense because we were able to get into more places, talk to more people, and therefore get more material. In laughter we joked that we were tag teaming people.
I smiled and laughed more than I had in a long time at the AVN Expo. Everyone was just happy to be there and be apart of the adult industry. The fans there were quite invested to say the least! After trying to interview a couple of fans, I had to give up. My second fan interview was a man from Panama who barely spoke English. Do not be fooled the adult industry is the most popular taboo industry out there!
Interacting with so many different people was amazingly overwhelming in the best way possible. I have never felt so blessed to be apart of something most people will never understand, because I was surrounded by people who did understand and get it. What a priceless feeling! Is this what “normal” people feel like everyday?
After interviewing countless porn stars, fetish models, cam girls, and adult toy creators/inventors, I have so many people to thank. However, let me just leave you with a few moments that made my experience top-notch.
Cali Carter(@CaliCarterXXX) was the largest surprise. She is young, but an ambitious and intelligent woman. Everyday I was at the Expo, I saw her running from booth to booth to greet more people. Plus, she looked amazing doing it!
Sara Jay(@SaraJayXXX) is a veteran in the adult industry and still was a kind business minded woman. She has a vibe about her that is just comforting. Sara Jay reminded me of the supportive veteran strippers from when I first started stripping. Check out her website http://www.SaraJay.com
Kayla Jane Danger(@KJDangerDoll) was my most natural interview. She has a way of making others feel at ease with laughter, but mixes in wisdom. I leave you with a quote from her that exudes her amazingly adamant personality disguised by her beautiful petite body.
“Our sex is safer than your sex, over 80% of the time. So, stop trying to tell us what to do and how to have sex. We are protected, we are careful, and we do a better job of it than you do.” ~Kayla Jane Danger
The AVN Expo was a great reminder of all the positive opportunities within the adult industry.
People seem to assume being a female writer in the adult industry must be one of the most glamorous jobs, besides being an adult actress. Glamour comes at a price, just as anything else. No one sees the hours I spend in front of a computer, laptop, and/or phone in pajamas. Yes, networking in person is a large part of the equation in the adult industry, in any niche. However, the people we meet are not located nearby where we have the ability to interact in person often. The most valuable people found networking are from different parts of the nation/world and are from different forms of media. We all create differently.
Recently, I have noticed a disconnect with the people I know local to Oregon. Anyone who wants to get anywhere, let alone the world, escapes small town rural Oregon (transplants maybe a different situation). I rarely make time for Oregonians in my schedule, especially if it is work related. There are a few people I hold close to my heart in the adult industry here in Oregon, but few is the key word. There are always those people who touch your heart no matter where you meet them. Well,this applies to strip clubs and the adult industry as well. Good hearted people exist everywhere, the hard part is finding them.
I may have felt like a blend of Hunter S. Thompson and Marilyn Monroe today, but they both also worked hard to play hard.
Check out my new friends over in Florida!
‘Luck is a very thin wire between survival and disaster, and not many people can keep their balance on it.” ~Hunter S. Thompson