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Employees Continue To Get Paid At Realty Edge

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The employees at Realty Edge in Clackamas, Oregon still continue to get paid, while I am told to wait for my back monthly allowance for being a stay at home girlfriend, relocating, and not stripping. Funny because I even waited till tax quarter to leave when he would deposit a large sum into our joint account. I can only assume why this was a reoccurring theme four times a year.

Within a couple of days of our restraining order being lifted, I got a phone call from my mother informing me that Tim(aka Tae Roh) visited her and threatened that I may face legal ramifications if I did not remove some of the truths about his business off my blog. Well, unfortunately when you date a writer and underestimate her, you allow yourself to be exposed. For people who chose to lead double lives this is just not kosher.

I thought I was an actress in this whirlwind we call life but I am realizing more and more how the corporate world is more two-faced then a stripper on a Friday night preying on drunk men. Tim(aka Tae Roh) represents all the sugar daddies out there that cannot understand without money they would not be surrounded by half the people around him. Employees may act like friends but that is apart of the corporate show they all put on. Let us be honest with ourselves about who is around and why? And are you messing with an employee who is married, well that is wrong in my adult industry perspective. I can only imagine what “mainstream” people would say or speculate.

So to a business man his work will always come first, because there are no legally binding papers that hold him accountable in a relationship besides marriage or a domestic partnership. Guess I am lucky that I never signed a NDA, but he was never smart enough to ask me to. In the beginning of our relationship I had no clue how controlling and inhumane he would be so I would have gladly signed it. Just as I took his word that he would take care of me financially and I relocated to Portland Oregon and stopped stripping, which took away my largest source of instant income, which was what my monthly allowance was to make up for. Allowance monthly was by design so I would never be stuck with a man for his money. Well now he is trying to keep me stuck in his life by withholding my back allowance and I have to play nice in hopes of him keeping his word. Which so far seems tainted when it comes to relationships and financial security and personal financial independence other than his own.

When you date a younger woman and promise to take care of her financially you need to keep that promise even if she wants to leave because no one should be around another for just money. And why would Tae Roh want a relationship based on the power of witholding money when I was just fine financially before him and spent more money and retained my freedom. Plus, he calls my best career year, the year when I stayed home to learn to be a housewife. How insulting! Women like me have no problem leaving a man in the dust, but she will get what she has earned.

Xoxo

Zi-Fi

Features Traveling To Success In The Adult Industry

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Traveling is a large part of the equation of becoming one of the best of the best in the adult industry. Creating a large fan base adds to a feature dancer’s value. Thus, why feature dancers often travel on a regular basis. The world recognizes and sees the talent, skill, and beauty feature dancers embody when on stage, but often forget to remember this “glamorous life” comes with a price tag not many can afford.
 
Natasha Nova(@MsNatashaNova) is Miss Pole Champ USA 2015(crowned by the amazing Vayda Kiss in May) and EDI East Newcomer of the Year 2015. After seven years in the adult industry, she has just started getting her feet wet in feature dancing on the east coast. Natasha Nova is still in the transition of going from having a home club, to venturing out of her comfort zone and state on a regular basis. However, she has been quick to catch on to the ways of the adult industry and how one must seize the moment. Probably due to her background working for a marketing firm before she entered the adult industry. Winning Miss Pole Champ USA 2015 and EDI East Newcomer of the Year 2015 was perhaps the easy part for Natasha Nova, the hard part is making the most of it career wise. When new to the adult industry on a national and international level we all make mistakes, but we have to make the most of them and be open to learning and trying new things/places.
 
In Natasha Nova’s recent travels, she has embraced the travel/tour life by not only working, but experiencing the places and sights she sees along the way, she refers to herself as an “experience junkie.” The beginning of a feature dancing career is when it is easy to get excited to see all things new. Jacquie the Costume lady who custom designs, one of a kind, outfits for many feature dancers within the adult industry has found another great customer. This is a new chapter in life for Natasha Nova, which she will remember and cherish for a lifetime. People dream of being where she is now. Unfortunately, the novelty of traveling in the adult industry wears off after time, but is always a blessing to be thankful for. Seeing the world is a privilege most people will never know. Natasha Nova is aware of this privilege and is wholeheartedly embracing it. Although, she does already admit to missing her two dogs when she is on the road and personal relationships being more difficult.
 
Simone DanaLustrous(@LoveSimone) has been in the adult industry for ten years and a feature dancer for five of those years. She is two time Miss Nude Entertainer of the Year(2014 and 2015) and two time Miss Nude North America(2012 and 2013). With the time and wisdom that comes with growth within the adult industry on a national and international level, she radiates passion and tenacity even through email.
 
“No one takes into account that we have lives behind the smiles and sequins.” ~Simone DanaLustrous
 
Simone DanaLustrous is more than willing to admit the sacrifices she continues to make in order to be successful as a feature dancer. Leaving her child behind most weekends, not being there for important moments for family/friends, and not having good luck with relationships because men often cannot deal with an independent woman in the adult industry who is not around most the time.  However, she is compassionate enough to not blame others for their need to have her as an active participant in their life and their big moments.
 
“Either way, people’s opinion of me and my work is not going to stop me from doing it. I love it too much to quit.” ~Simone DanaLustrous
 
Those of us in the adult industry have to understand we value things differently than most people because we have chosen to have an uncommon career. We cannot apologize for the way we choose to live our lives. Simone DanaLustrous has taken this understanding to a new level, we cannot short change people in personal relationships of what they desire and need.
 
This understanding is the root of the demand for adult entertainers. Thus, if we are honest with ourselves job security is a payoff of this need. Human beings need people around us to care about us and share our lives with. Who are adult industry entertainers supposed to share their lives with though? They are so busy catering to the needs of others for a living, while traveling the nation and trying to have their own personal life to top it off.
 
Justice(@Justiceofvan), Miss Nude Canada 2015, has been extremely busy in the past few weeks traveling to fulfill her duties as Miss Nude Canada 2015 and making other appearances. She did take the time out to answer a few questions, as an entertainer always should make time for their fan base and/or an opportunity to increase their fan base. Justice also is facing the challenges of having a lasting relationship while existing in the adult industry. She just ended a ten-year relationship. However, she did tell me that she would like to be a stay at home mom after she finishes with the adult industry. We all have different end games in the adult industry and they change throughout our careers and with our experiences.
 
The grass is not always greener in stilettos.
 
xoxo
 
Zi-Fi
@ZifiStripClub
 
A very special thank you to Simone DanaLustrous!
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What A Sugar Daddy Looks Like…

Almost every Sugar Daddy starts his search for a sugar baby on the internet. Perhaps, because they spend the majority of their time in front of computers surrounded by people they boss around, but cannot date. Due to the death from SeekingArrangement.com last year, Tae Roh’s(aka Tim Roh) attention was caught by the media. We met online through SeekingArrangement.com in the summer of 2014. Tae Roh(aka Tim Roh) and I were in a traditional nsa sugar relationship until Thanksgiving 2014, when we turned our relationship more traditional and continued to do so even more until just last month,

Is it shocking that a man who claimed he would love and marry me, would throw my things around and expect me to get out the day after we broke up. Especially, when I relocated to Portland, Oregon and quit stripping to be his stay at home girlfriend? Also take into account that his brother is a pastor! What is even more shocking is that he is a partner in a realty firm in Clackamas(a suburb of Portland, Oregon) associated with Better Homes and Gardens and Michael O’Meara. And to top it off he shorted me on our verbal monetary agreement because I thought his word was enough.

Is this the type of person or business you would like to support?

Glass houses shatter only to cut to the bone.

Xoxo

ZiFi

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Freedom Comes With A Price Tag

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You Can Only Give So Much Before You Disappear!

Over the past year I have been very quiet about my own life. Being a sugar baby turned spoiled girlfriend in a monogamous relationship in Portland, Oregon was a huge transition. My long time readers know I have never given up my freedom to be with just one man in sugar before, let alone live with him. It always seemed very illogical to let one man have so much control over my life, until my feelings and heart got involved.

This someone got me a dog to keep me company in a city I was alone in besides knowing him. Little did I see that a dog made me stay longer and helped him isolate me. It was like a ploy to try to trap me into being a powerless mother and housewife to a controlling man. Joint bank accounts were involved as well as house work and folding underwear. This was no where near the life that I have been used to, but in the mirage of being sold a fantasy of a partner in life, security, family, and future in southern California. I kept trying in this relationship, so I would never look back with regret.

As of last week, I stopped trying anymore. With every compromise of my freedom I lost a piece of myself only to realize the pieces were so small and common that I almost forgot to stand up for myself and be the strong woman I am at heart. Never let a man intimidate you and always stand up for yourself, because no one else will. There will always be those someones out there that prey on women who allow their control to be taken away.

Take your control back and… Never let a powerful man intimidate you!

Xoxo

ZiFi

@ZifiStripClub

 

Ashley Madison Hack-Strip Club Journals Unbound

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The Ashley Madison website hack from a couple months ago has reached international headlines with the double lives it has exposed. The slogan, “Life is Short. Have an affair,” has been swirling through the news everywhere. As a former sugar baby and stripper, I was shocked by the response from American society. Affairs have been apart of life and marriage for thousands of years. However, the taboo is when people are forced to be honest about it? Not only with the ones they “love” the most, but publicly with the world. Government officials, federal employees, military members, and many more were faced with the glass houses they lived in shattering. Only to leave them freshly bleeding publicly in puddles of hypocricy.

Why the double standard? Why is adultery acceptable as long as we do not speak of it(Speak no evil, hear no evil?). Why would a younger single woman date a married man for free? Especially, knowing he is consciously untruthful on a regular basis. What makes the wives of these married men exposed in the Ashley Madison hack think these affairs do not involve sugar(aka money and gifts). Women check your bank account balances, younger women who are single do not date married men for free and remain silent and happy. This is the topic which has been tip toed around, even with all the international media buzz. We still remain unable to be completely honest about the situation revealed, let alone the real root issues.

If this public outing of an affair website was not deemed wrong(morally and/or ethically) then why did the CEO of Avid Life Media(operator of Ashley Madison) resign? Noel Biderman, long time CEO of Avid Life Media, resigned shortly after the hack went public. Who will bravely fill in his hot seat is still unknown, but should be interesting to follow.

Now let’s think strip clubs; how do they fit into the equation of infidelity? What would happen if all men had to be honest about gong to a strip club? Which is worse: a profile made online in the heat of the moment that never gets used or going to a strip club to blow off some steam where there is a monetary exchange for a tangible naked woman providing the physical/tangible service of a lap dance? Or what about the very extreme of creating a profile on Ashley Madison(or any other dating site) and going through with having an affair? The world used to be so black and white. However, with modern technology nowadays there is no guarantee of privacy to be found anywhere. We exist in the grey in this day and age where promises were once words taken seriously. Now we are adding public accountability to the equation of trust and love. Will we all pass the test? Can we be honest about our intimacy issues enough not to have to be publicly outed and shamed about our sexuality to tell our own truths.

“Some journalists have turned the focus of the criminal act against Ashley Madison inside out, attacking us instead of the hackers.” Avid Life Media.

The root issue of the Ashley Madison hack is the need for people in monogamous relationships(married or not) to not be truthful about their intimacy needs with their partner. Honesty and trust are the root of the issue. The fact a website for cheaters exists is just the result of supply and demand in this capitalist society. Ashley Madison was warned by the Impact Team, the group who hacked the website, with a warning entailing the potential future ramifications of a release of collected information. Ashley Madison and/or Avid Life Media did not take the threats seriously. Thus, they are already facing lawsuits from individuals who’s lives have been harmed by the release of this private information. Ironic huh?

Live John and Jane Does all over the nation are stepping forward to try to get back what they perhaps already took from themselves. Should those using an affair website really have the moral high ground legally in the Ashley Madison hack? Already, the information the Impact Team released about Ashley Madison users is helping people in the middle of divorces provide proof of adulterous behavior. Thus allowing for more power in the negotiation in the terms of divorce settlements. Divorce attorneys nationwide have to be throwing a party like little kids on Christmas.

As a society is this hack going to cause enough waves to make us think and change? Will we continue to sweep these sexuality and intimacy issues under the rug? Has this incident outed enough powerful people that we are willingly able to be honest enough to realize this is a root issue that needs to be addressed more openly in American society.

Let the discussion begin!

Xoxo

Zi-Fi

@ZiFiStripClub

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