Customers at the strip club often think they are witty. When in actuality they all say the same few things to me.
Wow you are tall!
How tall are you?
You smell good.
What else do you do besides this?
I’m sure you make a lot of money.
You have a great smile.
Your teeth are perfect.
Why are you here?
I have seen you online.
You write a blog.
Why aren’t you married?
Why do you not want children? …. So many things, yet all so similar.
The one statement which gets under my skin the most is, “Why are you not married?” They always say it in a condescending tone like I am not as appealing, because I value my freedom dearly. Yes, by now I could have married for money. In a community property state, I could even be divorced by now and probably be set for life. However, the offers(yes plural) have never felt like they were a fair trade for my freedom. The thought of having to follow rules as to when and where I can work, let alone the daily things, just turns me off instantly. Sure, I would be taken care of, have nice cars of my choice, credit cards, jewelry & the finer things in life. At night, when I lay my head down on my pillow, I have to feel happy with my life and my decisions.
“Once conform, once do what other people do because they do it, and a lethargy steals over all the finer nerves and faculties of the soul. She becomes all outer show and inward emptiness; dull, callous, and indifferent.”
I realize the world is a shallow place, but home is supposed to be an escape. A safe place where you are valued for being multidimensional, rather than having to hide your own depth to appeal to the average strip club customer. It would be turning life into a job at the strip club. My desires/goals/wants would always come second to catering to someone else’s needs. It only makes sense to take care of the person who provides security for you, if you are not providing it for yourself. The men who seek a trophy wife rarely want to aide in their personal dreams and goals, because that would provide them with the financial freedom to leave. It would end up to be an investment that ended in a loss. So as a businessman, it makes dollars and sense to keep a trophy wife at home.
All these are all the reasons why I have not married for money. Also, I do not want to date/marry a man my own age while I work as a stripper. The jealousy issues are beyond not worth it. Asking a man my own age to be logical enough to understand intimacy and sexuality are two different things and only real when mixed together is asking too much. However, older men have enough life experience to know dancing/stripping is merely a job(a means to an end).
Overall, I do not want to marry currently and people cannot fathom this! I am a stripper what makes people think I am going to conform to the mainstream in my personal life, when I do not even conform to society for my livelihood?
Also, I must mention the unexpected death of Sandra Saxon(aka Lisa Lowry). She is a permanent ray of sunlight in the industry. In lieu of flowers her family requests that donations be sent send to a church(http://www.gfofa.com/) in the name of Lisa Ruth Wilson Lowry. Her positive ripple effect will be a wave that never ends.