I met Eugene POT #2 after I was finished at the gym, on a Saturday night. We met at one of my favorite sushi places downtown and he did not eat or have a drink. This was a first to eat and drink by myself on a date. A very odd first. However, this gave #2 a lot of time to talk about himself, which he greatly utilized.
Eugene POT #2:
- owns an excavation business in town
- was in the military and in Vietnam
- has two children, a boy(17ish) and a girl(13ish)
- is in his 50s
- tall and a bigger build, due to knee problems
- blonde-ish hair and blue eyes
- divorced from last wife because she was caught cheating on him at a work site
- does not like fat women
- had a SB relationship that lasted four years
This last quality is the reason I wanted to met this POT or at least it is what made his email stand out from the others. He knew how the arrangement worked as far as allowance, gifts, and shopping. I was shocked beyond belief after hearing about his last SB. I still do not know what to think. Other then he is a crazy unhappy person who is a people pleaser, beyond belief, and probably will never see the error in his ways.
His last SB was 17 when she started seeing him and her father works for him. (When I first heard this, I was appalled. However after a little research on Tumblr, I found minor SBs are a lot more common than I would ever have imagined. Funny, how I can be naive still after all I have seen and experienced!) So, he started seeing her when she was 17. Four years later, by the time they split up, she had two kids of her own. He supported her through two pregnancies with other men’s babies. He said they did not have sex, but he supported her, bought her a car, and she lived with him and his children.
I thought this would be a good SD for short-term at least, but he text messaged me a couple of days after our meeting and told me his feelings were still raw and he needed time to heal. Which really means that he told his last SB that he met someone new and she drew him back in. Well, kudos to this girl. She dated an old man at 17 and by 22 she is burnt out. Young and dumb got the best of her, sad to say.
What a story, Right! The firsts never stop!!
Last Friday I met my first local POT, in my recent spree of locals. Eugene POT #1 was very ordinary in the sense that he was in his 50s, divorced for around ten years, close to retirement, worked for the same company for over 30 years. He had very old-fashioned values, which is not a bad thing. However, near the beginning of our date we both knew we were not on the same page, but I did enjoy his company. Also, he made an effort and slipped me a little cash even though we both knew it was not going to work out. Old fashion can be positive!
This morning, I woke up to a text message from The Married Couple. They had to cancel our date today to go wine tasting. So, this makes me two for two this weekend. Both my Friday and Saturday dates canceled. This is another first, they just never stop! I am a little taken aback, but I know The Married Couple will make an effort to see me soon. The POT from Friday(Eugene#4 POT) is still very questionable, but he makes himself sound good for sure!
As the sugar bowl turns, I am reminded that like attracts like and when I am salty I attract salt. Time to be friendly again! I must remember one of these f*cking toads will be my prince if I am just patient. Also, the people I meet along the way always have a piece of information that will help me get to where I am going in a more elegant and timely fashion!
P.S. Check back soon, I will be writing about the local POTS I have been meeting. Wow, so much writing material, I am overwhelmed! Everybody has a story and to meet new people almost weekly and have to analyze them for work is a draining experience. People who think what I do is mindless and/or easy are truly in the dark.
I met three new local POTs in four days this past week for dinner or lunch. This was an emotionally draining experience. However, I had rationalized that if I met theses POTs in person then I would know if they were/are real, if they understood the arrangement part of an SD/SB relationship, and if I liked them enough to spend time around and with them! We are who we surround ourselves with so evolution must be taken into account, no amount of money is worth giving up on yourself! So, I met three local POTS in four days. What an eye opening experience!
I am humbled to know the standard emotional daily life of most people is not healthy or wealthy!! Oregon is one of the worst states economically nationwide, therefore people are different on average. When things get tough, people’s true colors come out and sometimes they are not pretty. My friends remind me that I live in a fantasy land but rarely do I see just how bluntly correct they are!
I woke up today with that defeated feeling because #3 from yesterday was a power trip guy and I feet drained from it still. These men all reminded me of the qualities I hate in men. Specific qualities such as ordinary and content with it, the emotional evolution of a teenage boy, and power trip/users.
I am beyond tired of going out to dinner for free! I know this sounds horrible, but these men would never have a chance with a woman like me, or even close, without money!
And to think this was my answer to Dr. Grey POT canceling on me for the weekend…At least I gained more wisdom about men!