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11 Tips For Going No Contact With A Narcissist

Going “No Contact” with a narcissist is a difficult and sometimes an extreme endeavor. However, it is necessary to heal and recover. Sometimes this means leaving your whole family and/or social circle in your past. This is one of the most difficult steps, but your efforts will be rewarded with personal growth. It is better to be alone than continue to be abused and brainwashed.

Here are some steps to make going “No Contact” a little more manageable:

  1. When “No Contact” is not an option use the “Grey Rock” method.
  2. Block your narcissist on All social media sites and your email.
  3. Remove triggering photos, gifts, and other reminders in your physical environment.
  4. Cut contact with all the narcissist’s friends, in order to avoid flying monkeys and the smear campaign.
  5. Use self-care to distract yourself and keep motivated to stay “No Contact”.
  6. This is an addiction, be kind to yourself if you relapse and continue “No Contact”.
  7. Practise mindfulness.
  8. Find a narcissistic abuse community online to get support.
  9. Make a list of the awful things the narcissist did to you. Read this list when you want to break “No Contact”.
  10. “No Contact” is a time for healing and redefining yourself, be kind to yourself and practise self-love.
  11. This is one of the first steps to recovering, celebrate your new beginning.

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This Is What It REALLY Means To Go No Contact With An Abusive Narcissist

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Narcissist Quotes

Often when we are recovering from narcissistic abuse we forget that we are not alone. We are fighting a battle to become the best version of ourselves, a journey that so many other people have traveled. Here are a few quotes to remind you, you are not alone:

  • “The narc has been living in denial of their humanity and normal vulnerable feelings for so long there is an entire life time of unexpressed, repressed emotions rotting in the depths of their psyche. This is why they cannot stand to be alone. In that stillness they start to notice the stink coming up from the basement.” ― Richard GrannonHow to Take Revenge on a Narcissist: Take your power back by using the secret techniques of emotional manipulators – against them
  • “Realize that narcissists have an addiction disorder. They are strongly addicted to feeling significant. Like any addict they will do whatever it takes to get this feeling often. That is why they are manipulative and future fakers. They promise change, but can’t deliver if it interferes with their addiction. That is why they secure back up supply.” ― Shannon L. Alder
  • “When we meet and fall into the gravitational pull of a narcissist, we are entering a significant life lesson that involves learning how to create boundaries, self-respect, and resilience. Through trial and error (and a lot of pain), our connection with narcissists teaches us the necessary lessons we need to become mature empaths.” ― Mateo SolAwakened Empath: The Ultimate Guide to Emotional, Psychological and Spiritual Healing
  • “The narcissist identifies being loved with being possessed, encroached upon, shackled, transformed, reduced, exploited, weakened, engulfed, digested and excreted.” -Sam Vaknin
  • “Narcissism falls along the axis of what psychologists call personality disorders, one of a group that includes antisocial, dependent, histrionic, avoidant and borderline personalities. But by most measures, narcissism is one of the worst, if only because the narcissists themselves are so clueless.”—Jeffrey Kluger
  • “I think a lot of self-importance is a product of fear. And fear, living in sort of an un-self-examined fear-based life, tends to lead to narcissism and self-importance.”—Moby
  • “A narcissist paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. They will be offended by the truth. But what is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people’s true colors.”—Karla Grimes
  • “Parents are supposed to give the child back to herself with love. If they’ve got duct tape over their eyes because of narcissism, it doesn’t happen.” -Jane Fonda

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Toxic Selfishness: 50 Quotes About Why Narcissists Suck

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How To Recover From Narcissistic Abuse-12 Steps

After reading my last post(Signs You Have Experienced Narcissistic Abuse) and realizing you are suffering from Narcissistic abuse, what do you do now? Information is overwhelming and swirling through your head and up looks like down and right looks like left. Start here to get your equilibrium back.

How to recover from Narcissistic abuse:

  1. Go “No Contact”.
  2. Set healthy boundaries.
  3. Acknowledge the truth & forgive yourself.
  4. Heal your inner child.
  5. Activate your Vagus nerve & do an adrenal reset.
  6. Learn grounding techniques & self soothing.
  7. Allow yourself to grieve & be angry.
  8. Seek professional help.
  9. Work on self-esteem.
  10. Focus on things that you can control(ex. your own behavior).
  11. Understand why the narcissist acts the way they do.
  12. Remember narcissists are incapable of real feelings.

This is just a short list of things that will aid you in the healing process after narcissistic abuse. Be kind to yourself and learn to love the person you are, while starting this journey to be the best you possible. This is just the beginning of a beautiful journey to find the true you, the best version of yourself. Be patient with yourself and practise self-care along your journey.

Xoxo

ZiFi

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6 Steps to Emotional Healing after Narcissistic Abuse (#1 is the most important!)

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Signs You Have Experienced Narcissistic Abuse

Many people have approached me with questions regarding how to know if they have experienced narcissistic abuse. In our society, we do not often treat the root issue, but rather treat the symptoms. Therefore, the signs of narcissistic abuse can often become the focus themselves rather than discovering the root issue of narcissistic abuse.

Here are 16 signs of narcissistic abuse:

  1. Anxiety and/or depression.
  2. Health issues and/or autoimmune diseases.
  3. Walking on eggshells.
  4. You put your needs/wants/desires on the back burner.
  5. Self isolation.
  6. Compare yourself to others.
  7. Self sabotage and self-destruction.
  8. Fear of success.
  9. Gaslight yourself(ex. rationalizing, minimizing, denying).
  10. Low self-esteem.
  11. Feeling like you are going crazy.
  12. Nothing you do is good enough.
  13. You feel ignored and/or invisible.
  14. Overachiever or underachiever.
  15. Poor sense of self.
  16. You fear you are a narcissist.

If you can relate to these symptoms of narcissistic abuse, then it is time to reevaluate who you are surrounding yourself with and take the steps necessary to resolve the root cause. Be brave and know that being alone is way better than dealing with these unhealthy symptoms that will eventually take over your life.

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Narcissistic Mothers-Children Themselves

Growing up with a Narcissistic Mother is one of the hardest things I have ever endured in my life. I always knew there was something wrong with my Mother, but never found the words until last year. Honestly, I just looked at her as damaged and someone I was supposed to feel sorry for while looking after her as my own child. This is the root wound and original abuser in many of our lives. Narcissistic Mothers prepare and condition their children to be in relationships with narcissists and other toxic people throughout their lives.

If you grew up with a narcissist Mother then you did not get to have a childhood. Life was all about them and their needs and wants. Here are some signs of a narcissistic Mother with some examples from my own childhood.

  • Competition-They are always in competition with their children.
  • Emotional Incest-My little brother still lives at home at the age of 27. My Mother likes this because then she does not have to be alone and face her fears of abandonment.
  • Do not validate feelings and/or allow children to be seen.
  • Fear of abandonment.
  • Do not have the ability to love, so they love bomb occasionally to save face and keep up appearances.
  • Will turn their children into slaves/personal servants. It is your job to take care of her because she is the forever child and you still have the opportunity to grow. She punishes you for this opportunity.
  • Will tell you the world is an awful place to be feared. This instills the fears she has about the world onto you.
  • Withholding of everything, but especially love.
  • Has to be the center of attention.
  • Neglectful because being a Mother does not provide the payoffs she expects.
  • You are to live up to her expectations and not your own. She is the one that you have to impress and her standards are the rule, not the exception.
  • Jealous of children’s successes. My Mother told me that she deserves credit for the books I have written because she taught me to read.
  • Manipulative-Guilt trip, Blame, Shame, Emotional Coercion, etc.
  • Child is the source of the problems.
  • No empathy.
  • Love is conditional and used as a reward to reinforce behavior that makes her feel superior.

These are just a few of the signs/tactics of a narcissistic Mother. When you realize these traits are just apart of who they are and have nothing to do with who you really are, the sooner you can heal. Rewiring your brain from childhood is quite a large task, but it can be done. Loose all hope for her and know that your hope needs to go into making your future the brightest it can be.

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10 Signs Of A Narcissistic Parent

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