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#CrazyMaking-Psychopaths, Sociopaths, & Narcissists

 

#CrazyMaking

When dealing with psychopaths, sociopaths, and narcissists communication is one of their favorite weapons. These people are not human in the fact that they only really feel alive when they are punishing someone else and they enjoy inflicting pain. The internal biology of their brain does not allow them to experience the world and people in the way most of us do. They seek out to hurt people and control things with an intent to make you worry, question who you are, sit at home alone, make you sad, take a piece of your soul, emotionally neglect you, and see how far they can push you. Psychopaths, sociopaths, and narcissists wage war on your soul, but disguised as love.

The following are ways to tell if a person in your life(whether at home, work, school, etc) has physcopathic traits. When confronting a psychopath, sociopath, and/or narcissist about their behavior these are the tactics they use to make you feel crazy:  Crazy Making.

  • Twisting words
  • Projection
  • Lying
  • Manipulation
  • Black and white thinking-no grey areas in their life/thinking
  • Word Salad-they literally do not make sense, flip things around on you to make you the one at fault
  • Circular conversations
  • Triagnulation-they bring a third-party into a situation/conversation(ex. “Should we call your Mom to see what she thinks of that?”)
  • Never ending argument-circular logic(ex. “Yes, but…”) they bring up your past as deflection and may throw in some word salad
  • Gaslighting-ex. “No I wasn’t…” they often outright deny their actions to make you question your reality and perception “You always…”
  • Condescending
  • Know it all
  • Patronizing
  • Accuse you of the things they are doing. Ex. cheating, lying, ect. This is projection.
  • Multiple personas-ex. good cop, bad cop… you will see multiple personas throughout an argument, they make you feel upset to get your reaction and then are your savior by helping you to calm down and find logic
  • All they do is make Excuses-Excuse, rationalize, blame, shame, and guilt trip is the pattern that takes place with their excuses
  • Hyper critical of people
  • Stone walling

These conversations are meant to leave us drained and confused. Psychopaths, sociopaths, and narcissists are parasitic people who enjoy making others crazy with manipulation and control tactics. The only way they feel alive and powerful is through hurting other people and/or making people miserable. Self protection is what drives them to do these things when confronted with their own actions because they cannot admit they are wrong and do not want to take responsiblity. How dare you hold them responsible for their own behavior? Even though they hold others accountable. When confronting a psychopath, sociopath, and/or narcissist you can only guarantee that you will feel dazed and confused after. Nothing like someone denying what they just did in the last breath.

Stone Walling is a huge tactic used by these people. They “punish’ you by refusing to talk. Sometimes they storm out, but overall it is a Loud heavy Silence that surrounds you. They leave people hanging to create anxiety and this is how they make people apologize for things they did not do. They work to make you silent. If you would not confront them then this would not happen. Ex. “I’ve had it…”

This tactic of stone walling a communication creates a feeling of isolation that makes us apologize. They do this on purpose to hurt people and they do know when they are doing something wrong or hurting someone. However, they hurt people on purpose in order to feel good.

If you see these actions in any of your interactions educate yourself. Education is the best tool when dealing with someone who wants to take your happiness for their own. Adult parasites surround us!

Xoxo

ZiFi

Sources:

Spartan Life Coach, YouTube Channel >>Click Here<<

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, YouTube Channel >>Click Here<<

Women Who Love Psychopaths, By Sandra Brown >>Click Here<<

It’s My Blog…I Will Let My Narcissism Out If I Want To

Haywood

As a recovering stripper and sugar baby, I can openly admit I was a narcissist and/or let my narcissistic traits take over. The adult industry breeds these qualities because they are required for success as an entertainer, However, it all changed for me when I got a sickly little rescue dog after retiring from stripping. My heart was opened like never before, such a pure love was so refreshing and valuable.

As a member of the adult industry, I naively assumed everyone had feelings they could turn on and off. How could they survive the world without turning them off? I had not figured out a greater defense mechanism for my feelings. What did they know that I did not? How could they be that strong?…. Well, they are Not Strong, but really just extremely weak individuals. I realized now some people have just turned their feelings off permanently. They did this consciously or unconsciously as a child.

Empathy is a choice and without a full spectrum of emotions, it will always be foreign and fleeting!

Xoxo

ZiFi

Strip Club Journals… But Why?

I started my blog to protect myself from unkind people and as a defense mechanism. I am not looking for pity or sympathy. Strip Club Journals is merely a way to protect myself from abusive/dysfunctional people and educate society of social norms they may have never questioned. Today, I realized I have the power. I have the power to make people live in the truth of their actions and that is what scares them. Especially, to have to do this publicly with their flaws and faults is terrifying.
This could be why my partner restricted my blogging about personal events. Especially, events that include him and may not be common knowledge.
Happy anniversary!
A1 and I will be celebrating the first anniversary of our civil union on the New Year. What do you think he will get me? Do you think he still spoils me like he did when he found me on SeekingArrangement.com as a sugar baby/stripper? We will all find out in a few weeks!
Xoxo
ZiFi
“Trauma lives in the dark.” -Soul GPS

The Offspring Of Evil-Growing Up Communist

I was raised Russian Orthodox in small town Oregon. With this childhood came mostly communist family members. However, I did not realize I was raised communist until my last trip home to Oregon. My Mother was defending her poor parenting choices while grasping for anything and out came the truth. It was a magical moment that set me free in many ways. Finally, the freedom to admit my mom was my first oppressor merely by the belief system/culture she carried with her. I know this sounds odd, but to someone who has been held down their whole life without logical reason this was like someone taking my blindfold off.

With this realization I was able to rearrange my belief system to make more sense of everything. My Mother was a product of her environment. She is one of ten children to a Russian couple who were raised in orphanages and immigrated to the United States due to WWII. When I was younger she would have these moments of rage where she would lose the human look in her eyes and her soul disconnected from her body as she would yell, scream, and beat me. Now I know this is not just the Russian/Asian culture she was raised in, but it is a mental disorder. In my family, I am the black sheep because I have feelings and heaven forbid I admit to them.

With my psychopathic Mother not being able to be empathetic or sympathetic or show human feelings, I sought out human interaction from my Father who is a covert narcissist. To have found the words and terms to describe the childhood I experienced is like learning a language I already knew.

Now all my interactions are suspect of narcissism and psychopathy.

Xoxo

ZiFi

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Last Fall, I had to go to the DC area to meet my partner’s parents. It was a good first trip. His parents were on their best behavior, speaking English, and being the “normal” traditional Korean American parents. During this first trip, my partner’s Mother invited us back for Thanksgiving. Well, being the small town girl I am at heart, I accepted her invitation. Little did I know, their true colors would really come out during the holidays.

We arrive for Thanksgiving and everything was okay for a couple of days. They speak Korean, read Korean newspapers, and watch Korean television. The cultural values are very different even though I am from a part Asian family.

Their true colors started seeping out right before we left his parents’ house. His Mom started throwing a fit, literally, by yelling and hitting him/us as we collected our things. She was frantically flailing like a four-year old. I was in brutal shock and started having a panic attack. My partner had sold me on dreams of having a Mom to shop with and do the fun girl things I have never really gotten to enjoy with my own Mother. I was fine not having parents, but the fact that my partner would try to sell me on his parents being “normal” was beyond disturbing. This was the last panic attack I had.

My partners reaction to this situation was to go eat before we went to the airport to get on our airplane home. It was the perfect time for pho for my partner. So, I had white rice and a fried egg while trying to calm down. He sat across the table from me eating his pho like it was a Tuesday.

This is when I started to question the picture he painted about his family, life, and career.

Xoxo

ZiFi

These past events are like therapy for me to write down. So, please excuse my journals of a whore to a housewife.

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