Recently, I came to the conclusion that Mr. U does not have enough time as I require in his schedule. Which is understandable and something I sign up for as a sugar baby. Plus, who wants to be a needy sugar baby who has to ask for time. Needy is never an attractive look on anyone.
We recently came to an agreement/compromise, which will hopefully be the solution to keep our arrangement alive. After investing time, energy, and emotion into someone it is difficult to just throw them away, just as in any traditional relationship. However, retaining the ability to walk away at any moment is also a necessity. No one else should be in the driver seat of your life.
Accepting the fact that I am far from a priority is hurtful, but again it is what I signed up for entering the sugar bowl. I do have to mention that if I ever ask for anything financial it is taken care of quickly. This is how Mr. U shows he is invested in our arrangement. We all show affection differently.
Coming to terms with the arrangement I have with Mr. U was hurtful in a sense because it was a first. Never has an unmarried sugar daddy without children told me no so often to time together. Yet, at the same time, he will send me on my own vacations to keep me happy. What an interesting dynamic! When I first started sugaring these are the arrangements I dreamed of. However, after years of giving up traditional dating to be apart of the sugar bowl my needs have changed.
Affection is a basic human need, just as human touch and I am human too.
“Affection is responsible for nine-tenths of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our lives.”
~C. S. Lewis