“There are certain queer times and occasions in this strange mixed affair we call life when a man takes his whole universe for a vast practical joke.” ~Herman Melville
The VIP Exclusive Fashion Show(http://www.vip-exclusive.org) was held in Tampa, Florida on July 25th. This event was designed for the enjoyment of all by the owner: Terrance Shaw(@Vip_Exclusive). Terrance chose to incorporate all different styles of designers, models, and different types of entertainment than one would normally expect at the average fashion show. This added to the creativity and excitement of the event. Also, specifically the models themselves were of all types: Short, Tall and Petite. The message Terrance delivered to the audience was, “Dreams can come True!” He started the show off with a very powerful quote by a designer from the VIP Exclusive Fashion Show in Tampa, David President, who has an enlightening story behind his line.
“Walk by faith not by sight.” ~David President.
U.S. Gold and Silver Inc.(http://www.usgoldandsilver.org) sponsored VIP Exclusive Fashion Show in Tampa. Joseph Rainier, CEO of U.S. Gold and Silver, attended the event as an active title sponsor and provided two rings to be awarded to the winners. He takes part in sponsoring events like these, “…to help charities and advance careers of models and designers.” The opportunities at the VIP Exclusive Fashion Shows are also there by design.
“We are known for connecting businesses and models with new opportunities at our events.” ~Terrance Shaw
Terrance Shaw’s willingness to work with a dynamic mixture of models and sponsors creates a melting pot of opportunities. If you are looking for an opportunity to grow and appreciate the beauty in the world, whether a model, designer, or sponsor contact VIP Exclusive Fashion(email@example.com). They hold fashion shows nationwide with upcoming fashion shows soon to be held in Virginia and New York.
The last thing I expected to see at VIP Exclusive Fashion Show in Tampa, Florida was an amazing pole dancer and singer duo. Jacqueline Valdez(@ElegantJacqueline) and Jason Rex began the fashion show setting the tone for the event. Jacqueline Valdez elegantly worked the pole and floor while Jason Rex, a power vocalist, expressed his passion and emotion through song. This dynamic duo was much unexpected. However, it did add to the buzz and excitement of VIP Exclusive Fashion Show, just as Terrance Shaw had anticipated and planned.
Jacqueline Valdez and Jason Rex combined their talents to create Infusion Remax(@InfusionRemax). They have much success to come in their near future with blossoming talent and career minds. Look for them to appear in Vegas soon. They are such a unique collaboration. The talent they have is powerfully raw, rare, and yet amazingly harnessed.
This was the beginning of my adventures for my September column of Strip Club Journals Unbound. I had thought this was going to be my jump into mainstream media. However once I arrived at the fashion show, after an extremely long airport day(DO NOT FLY @AmericanAir & @USAirways #MergerGoneWrong), I realized the need mainstream society has to resemble the adult industry to varying degrees, to which they deem to be acceptable. Everyone wants to feel special and/or fancy. The mainstream just has glamorous misconceptions of the adult/entertainment industry and the lives we actually lead and/or live.
These delusions were put quickly to rest when I traveled back to Oregon to cover the Vagina Beauty Pageant. Add the word vagina to an adult industry event and all of a sudden the glamour is completely taken away. Perhaps, that is how we adult industry people weed the mainstream from some events. Knowing that in doing so it will be a liberal freedom enhancing experience, rather than a shameful experience one must recover from.
Dick Hennessy(@DJDickHennessy) created The Vagina Beauty Pageant six years ago. The name of the pageant alone has given it a stigma that probably makes many national and international writers anxious to touch due to its nature and subject matter. However, this is exactly the kind of event I look for in the adult industry. “Controversy causes readership,” is my motto and going out of my own comfort zone makes me grow as an individual, so this was a win-win situation. I even had to go out of my own comfort zone for this one, a rarity with my own background in the adult industry.
“The fact that I get paid for one of my passions in life is amazing to me.” ~Noel(Eugene, Oregon)
The Vagina Beauty Pageant allowed me to reconnect with some of the strippers I met when I entered the adult industry in small town Oregon. Reconnecting with my roots also made me face just how liberal Oregon remains. The one thing I learned going to one preliminary round and the finale of the Vagina Beauty Pageant was that the first amendment gives women in Oregon strip clubs the right to insert things into themselves. This is a random fact that was burned into my eyes and soul to be remembered forever.
The adult industry never stops amazing me. Yes it is amazing to be a part of it all, but there will always be moments where the adult industry shocks everyone merely by design and nature.
Special warm thank you to Embrace Beauty Magazine (@embracebeautym) for catching me with my notepad in hand and Kento Kawakami Photography (http://www.kentokawakami.com) for the photos from Vip Exclusive Fashion Show in Tampa and Infusion Remax.
Next month look forward to my first PANDA interview(http://www.pandamembers.org), catch up with Christian Desire of Magic Mike XXL(IG @MiamiModelo), and The Male Encounter Show(the group Channing Tatum performed with). Also, keep an eye/ear out for my radio segment #ZsAreTheFactsWithZiFi on Adventures of The Mayor(@EAFLOWS).
The big picture is something that is greatly overlooked in the adult industry. Customers rarely see past the lap dance, champagne room, and the fantasy. The dancers rarely see past the money.
With all this clouded vision I asked entertainers (who have been in the industry five or more years), “How has the industry changed you/your life?” Dancers were reluctant to reply with feedback to this question, which is odd. Normally, feedback is not something I have to seek out too much. In this case though, perhaps dancers were reluctant to think about the issue and then share their realizations about their own lives.
Seeing past the money hurts, just as the fantasy loses its glitz and glamor when it becomes real.There was one commonality in every single response I received. This did surprise me. The extent of the effects of this issue is large in my life, but I never realized I was in such good company. The issue is simple, yet complex all at the same time. “Dating is hard,” stated bluntly by a dancer. I learned this after the first year or two I was in the industry. It takes a strong man to trust a dancer and understand it is just a job, a means to an end. This makes many men feel threatened and/or insecure, which is something that just is what it is.
We cannot change society and society does not paint a pretty picture of strippers.”People already think that strippers are whores, junkies, and drunks. So they look down on you. However, You don’t have to be a stripper to be a whore, drunk, or a junkie.” This was a great quote from another response I received. If we live in a society that judges strippers poorly, then it is logical that most people in the society will follow suit and judge strippers poorly too. Thus, men in relationships with strippers will judge them as well. This is pure logic, but it does not mean it hurts one’s heart any less!
The adult industry also changes what dancers value emotionally. “Now, it’s the emotional connection that I crave,” put gracefully by a dancer who made me feel at ease when I first started in the industry. After experiencing all the sexuality and seeing how much people value sex(rather than intimacy) in our society, being valued as an individual becomes extremely important. Dancers want to know that we are valued for more than just how we look. We know how to attract attention, but when we get attention without trying is when we truly value it the most. The adult industry is all about appearances and catering.
Well, if the adult industry caters to American society, then why would society look down upon the adult industry workers? We are the ones who make their fantasies closer to reality then they ever could on their own. Why do people look down upon women who empower themselves with their own sexuality? These women are brave to embrace their own sexuality as a strength rather than a weakness.
Society may be over sexed, but dancers working in the industry as a career see past the sex that society craves. Sex is a drug. Everyone has a different quitting point and some people never stop. Intimacy and emotional connection are the true goals in relationships. Sex can be amazing when you allow yourself to be vulnerable, rather than just using another person to fulfill your mamalistic desires/human needs. This is something that every dancer knows who has given a dance on an afternoon shift to an older successful man who was already emotionally dead before 50 years old.
I have been doing research for my next article in adult quest magazine. It is going a lot slower than I ever expected. My topic is, “How has the industry changed you after being in it for 5 or more years?” Women for the most part do not want to talk about how the industry has changed them.
It has been very hard to get feedback and personally I understand. Mostly the industry has not changed me in good ways and to be in an industry for longer than 5 years and have the effects be mostly negative makes one wonder. Why you’re still there, but yet on the other hand I really enjoy my job at times. It’s great because it allows me so much freedom and I love freedom.
Freedom is never free!!