Use Coupon Code: STRIPCLUBJOURNALS

narcissistic abuse recovery

11 Tips On How To Acknowledge The Truth & Forgive Yourself After Narcissistic Abuse

Realizing you were living in a fake reality is one of the hardest parts of recovering from Narcissistic abuse. No one wants to believe someone they loved would want to con them. However, this is the reality when it comes to narcissistic abuse. Narcissists are not capable of real love and so they use love as a weapon.

Here are 11 tips on how to acknowledge the truth and forgive yourself after narcissistic abuse:

  1. Realize this was not a real relationship.
  2. They controlled you to gain power.
  3. The Narc had complete cognitive knowledge of what they were doing.
  4. The abuse was a working mechanism that the Narc used to control you, manage you down, isolate you, disable you and use you to meet their needs.
  5. The why does not matter, you cannot fix a personality disordered person.
  6. Love was used to con you into the abuse by gaining your trust and commitment to them.
  7. Intellectually understand this is a personality disordered person.
  8. Emotionally realize this was Not Real love.
  9. Purge the negative messages that were planted in your head-these were only put there to control you.
  10. Take care of yourself-mentally and physically.
  11. You have the ability to achieve true happiness and the ability to love normally, the Narc does not have this option/ability.

Xoxo

ZiFi

Connect with me:

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ZiFiMedia/

Instagram @Zifi-Writing

Do you have a question or a topic on narcissistic abuse you would like me to write about? Please comment here or email me at ContactZi@yahoo.com

Source:

https://afternarcissisticabuse.wordpress.com/

6 Tips For Setting Boundaries After Narcissistic Abuse

After experiencing narcissistic abuse, it is a great time to reexamine your boundaries. Are your boundaries healthy and are they working for you? Narcissistic abuse occurs most of the time, because of poor personal boundaries. If we had seen and paid attention to the red flags early on, we would not have taken the path to being in an intimate relationship with a cluster b personality disordered person.

Here are 6 tips to creating healthy boundaries:

  1. Reexamine your values.
  2. Get used to saying No.
  3. Look after your own needs and wants.
  4. You are NOT responsible for other people’s emotions.
  5. Follow through-claim your boundaries.
  6. Practice detachment.

Xoxo

ZiFi

Connect with me:

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ZiFiMedia/

Instagram @Zifi-Writing

Do you have a question or a topic on narcissistic abuse you would like me to write about? Please comment here or email me at ContactZi@yahoo.com

Sources:

5 Ways to Start Setting Boundaries After Emotional Abuse

Setting BOUNDARIES

How to reclaim your boundaries after narcissistic abuse by using your values

How To Recover From Narcissistic Abuse-12 Steps

After reading my last post(Signs You Have Experienced Narcissistic Abuse) and realizing you are suffering from Narcissistic abuse, what do you do now? Information is overwhelming and swirling through your head and up looks like down and right looks like left. Start here to get your equilibrium back.

How to recover from Narcissistic abuse:

  1. Go “No Contact”.
  2. Set healthy boundaries.
  3. Acknowledge the truth & forgive yourself.
  4. Heal your inner child.
  5. Activate your Vagus nerve & do an adrenal reset.
  6. Learn grounding techniques & self soothing.
  7. Allow yourself to grieve & be angry.
  8. Seek professional help.
  9. Work on self-esteem.
  10. Focus on things that you can control(ex. your own behavior).
  11. Understand why the narcissist acts the way they do.
  12. Remember narcissists are incapable of real feelings.

This is just a short list of things that will aid you in the healing process after narcissistic abuse. Be kind to yourself and learn to love the person you are, while starting this journey to be the best you possible. This is just the beginning of a beautiful journey to find the true you, the best version of yourself. Be patient with yourself and practise self-care along your journey.

Xoxo

ZiFi

Connect with me:

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ZiFiMedia/

Instagram @Zifi-Writing

Do you have a question or a topic on narcissistic abuse you would like me to write about? Please comment here or email me at ContactZi@yahoo.com

Sources:

View story at Medium.com

6 Steps to Emotional Healing after Narcissistic Abuse (#1 is the most important!)

https://www.wikihow.com/Heal-from-Narcissistic-Abuse

Narcissistic War Tactics-Covert Versus Overt

All narcissists are not the same in the way they wage war on your heart and soul. Some are covert and others are overt. The differences are great in the tactics they use and how they come across, but the end result is narcissistic abuse. Richard Grannon describes covert as using the same tactics as Communism and overt as the Nazi regime. This explanation brought things into perspective more clearly than ever before.

I grew up Russian Orthodox with a BPD/Narc Mother who still speaks broken English when she gets upset.(The Offspring Of Evil-Growing UP Communist) Communism is nothing new to me, however the idea that covert Narcissists are basically Communists was an eye-opening realization. As a child, my Mother would tell me she was beating me because she loved me and it was for my own good. So from early on I was conditioned to think that abuse was love. This is the communist war tactic. They do not tell you that they hate you, they disguise their hate as love. This is a pattern that has repeated in my life over and over. However, the truth can set one free and I am here to say that no one has to accept this definition of love.

People who truly love you will not abuse you. People do not physically or emotionally neglect someone they love. This is not a delusion that you have to keep on living. Real humans love each other and show it with affection and attention. This affection and attention does not hurt, it heals and nurtures. For those of us who have found ourselves in relationships that include narcissistic abuse, we no longer have to operate with the false belief that love hurts. Real love does not harm or hurt.

Xoxo

ZiFi

Connect with me on Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/ZiFiMedia/

Do you have a question or a topic on narcissistic abuse you would like me to write about? Please comment here or email me at ContactZi@yahoo.com

My Health Journey-Narcissistic Abuse

The past few years, I have researched health to the ends of the earth. During this period I was enduring narcissistic abuse, but I was unable to identify it as such because I grew up in a narcissistic cult.  These feelings of emptiness and pain were normal and reminded me of my childhood. Feeling sick was a physical sign I could no longer ignore. Illness was getting in the way of everyday life and my career. So, I sought out to correct the physical.

When my narcissistic abuse lessened, I started to really see improvements in my health and well-being. It was a shocking realization that abuse can actually physically affect one’s health. The toxic people in my life were literally making me sick and closer to death.

As I started leaving cluster b personality disordered people in my past and going no contact, it was so much easier to live a healthy life. Plus, lifestyle changes can deter them from being active participants in a person’s life. Rarely does a narcissist want to eat healthy and not drink or do drugs.

As I started to live in a healthier manner, narcissists were without the tools to control me. It was an eye-opening experience to say the least. Towards the end, I was vegan, gluten-free, and mostly raw in my diet and I could feel and see myself getting better. However, little did I know I would exponentially continue to get better without many more changes after going no contact.

There are so many things that can help with the emotional trauma of learning about narcissistic abuse and leaving it in the past. Here are a few things that aided me in finding clarity and hope.

  1. Changing My Diet-I was already vegetarian and gluten-free, but when I went vegan I started to really see the changes in my body and mind. Thinking was simpler and clarity was not fleeting. There are so many little changes that eventually add up to be great change.
  2. Vitamins and Minerals-When I got serious about taking my supplements on a regular basis and focused on minerals more I noticed a huge change. In the modern world we live in mineral insufficiencies are almost a given.
  3. Parasite Cleanses-Humans who unknowingly allow parasitic people in their lives are at risk of having parasitic organisms and bacteria in their body. I survived a lifetime of allowing these parasitic people in my life(because I thought they were normal) so imagine all the little aches and pains I thought of as normal.

Health and self-care are some of the easier parts of recovering from narcissistic abuse. Simple changes in your lifestyle are powerful in redefining who you are as an individual. Allow this power to help you heal emotionally. Emotions are the hard part, so make some physical changes that allow you the energy to deal head on with your emotions in a more timely fashion.

Xoxo

ZiFi

1 2 3 4

max maillots max maillots max maillots max maillots max maillots peuterey outlet peuterey outlet peuterey outlet online peuterey outlet online peuterey outlet online woolrich outlet woolrich outlet online woolrich outlet online woolrich outlet online stone island outlet stone island outlet stone island outlet stone island outlet stone island outlet stone island outlet uk stone island outlet uk stone island outlet uk stone island outlet uk stone island outlet uk stone island soldes stone island soldes stone island soldes stone island soldes stone island soldes stone island soldes stone island saldi stone island saldi stone island saldi stone island saldi stone island saldi stone island saldi stone island outlet stone island outlet stone island outlet moose knuckles moose knuckles sale pop canvas art oil paintings stone island outlet stone island uk stone island outlet stone island outlet 2018