This election year has been anything but average. It is like the Jerry Springer show of politics. Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton are the two evils we have to choose from this election year in 2016. As a member of the adult industry who considers this lifestyle a career and a stepping stone, I am scared of the outcome. Not only because of my own job security as a business owner, but also the ability to retain the money I already made literally working my ass off.
Donald Trump appeared in a Playboy softcore porn in the year 2000 and is a businessman. This makes me think that he sees the value of the adult entertainment industry as the billion dollar industry it is and is brave enough to explore his sexuality publicly. Sexuality is a healthy human need. Yes, Trump has said many things lacking tack, but who in the public eye has not? Even I lack tack in my writing and get called out on it. I can only imagine what loudly spoken unpopular opinions would feel like in a presidential election.
Hillary Clinton is a woman who stood by her husband’s side as he cheated on her publicly in an office paid for by tax payers, not just once but in many offices. I do not judge her based on the fact that her husband cheated on her multiple times, but on the fact that she was weak and stayed with him in order to further her political career. This is not a role model we need in the white house. Let alone in the history books as the first woman president. A woman who is a role model to children of the future should not be a doormat. Hillary Clinton’s inaction to leave her cheating husband is a deal breaker, on top of her political ways of telling people what they want to hear.
The adult industry is leaning more Republican than I have ever experienced before. This is unusual because we are quite the liberal bunch, to state it lightly. Perhaps we see through Hillary’s campaign due to her tax reform, which will not help us out as business owners and independent contractors. Who knows how her social issue stances will affect our freedoms(aka livlihoods).
When the adult industry can see the light, we sure hope others can too!
*Even Nevada is being considered a swing state this year!
Pasties, pasties, and more pasties to review. This was a bit of a shocking challenge, because I no longer strip and never wore pasties when I was a stripper. The owner(Eric Polle) of Bling-n-Things claims, “They are the best pasties ever.” Being as he is a man, I wondered how he came to this conclusion and what research this was based on. Besides the input of other features and dancers he gave free samples to try.
My first stop after realizing the large did not fully cover my nipples was my laser skin tightening lady because she has seen it all. I am 5’9, 120lbs with implants that make me a 32DD, large is not really a word in my vocabulary unless I’m at Starbucks. So with my concern, I ran straight to my laser skin tightening lady. She put me at ease by confirming that these pasties would not fit most women especially ethnic women or women who breast feed and many other women for many other reasons. This made me feel better, yet sad at the same time. Since leaving the strip club industry I have been bombarded with the size of mainstream American clothes. When I go shopping nowadays, I surround myself in ex small and smalls. Unlike the adult industry where my tall thin frame was never called a small. Bling-N-Things reminded me on how sizes in the strip club industry are used to oppress women into conforming to a man’s view of what a woman should look like.
I wonder if they even know what they are unconsciously doing in this patriarchal society we live in?
If you have small boobs/implants/nipples you can order at http://www.Bling-n-Things.com for great prices on bulk orders. This is the perfect product for women who feel like they have mosquito bites for breasts.
During my recent trip to Oregon, I visited a small chain club I used to work at throughout my career as a stripper. This brought back all kinds of reminders of the stigmas and consequences of being a stripper in a small town market. These girls/women are not the best of the best, whom I normally write about, but these strippers dictate how all strippers are viewed by most of mainstream American society. The best of the best are allowed to be the best because of all the strippers in small town markets who make up the majority.
“It’s an unfortunate fact that many(not all) strippers were never taught or shown some of life’s basic skills. Most glaring is the lack of problem solving skills that focus on solutions instead of escalating the problem or assigning blame.” ~Keven “Mack” McFadden(GM from Stars in Salem, Oregon)
It is easy to forget all the little things and ways I learned to adapt in order to survive in small town strip clubs and actually come out ahead. Being around people who have nothing to lose is a tricky situation, which can cost quite a price both financially and mentally. Small town strip clubs are more likely to attract strippers who are drug addicts, strip club lifers, homeless, nomadic/traveling strippers, single moms, uneducated, minors still in high school, and the list goes on of barriers these women have to face and overcome. As small towns struggle economically, so do the strip clubs and this is what has allowed the downfall of standards in small market strip clubs.
The cost of working at small town strip clubs is high above the stigmas of small minds. There are also house fees, tip outs, drinks, gas, cabs, outfits, shoes, nails, tanning, makeup, hair and all the other things associated with beauty and being a stripper. The financial costs of working in a strip club are larger than most would assume. Like the saying goes you do not understand what it is like until you walk in someone else’s plastic six or eight inch stilettos with only a tiny thong.
“Some people may judge the fact that I used to take off my clothes for money, but I am glad I experienced it. People need to not be so judgemental of most strippers…” ~#RecoveringStripper from Springfield, Oregon
Not everyone enters the strip club industry to become one of the best of the best. Many strippers enter the strip club industry to even the financial playing field for being a woman in American society/Corporate America, but choose not to live in the industry forever. Some treat stripping as a stepping stone, much like an athlete has a career window. The connections, networking opportunities, and the time for personal enrichment and evolution are all valuable benefits of being a stripper. All walks of life enter the strip club both as customers, strippers, and employees. I have yet to find a more diverse way to network and learn about the world than stripping and the adult industry. Stripping in small towns was where I always had my best nights financially shockingly. Yet, it makes dollars and sense, because I found drunk blue-collar workers were always more willing to spend their last dollar than any other demographic. Working in small markets, even with the extra costs, was worth it financially some nights. Other nights it was draining physically, mentally, and emotionally.
“People will continue to find ways to surprise you, whether it’s a good energy or bad never assume anything of anyone.” ~#RecoveringStripper from Springfield, Oregon
When I worked in small town Oregon I would remove most jewelry and anything of value that could be stolen by a customer or peer. For the most part, if I could not live without it, I did not bring it to work. I even had certain clothes I would wear into the strip club while working. Many nights I witnessed other strippers forced to go home in a bikini bottom or a short skirt due to stolen clothing.
“Unfortunately, for many of them(strippers) it is their own life choices that led them down a destructive path. Once they are at the low point and add self medicating into the mix, it is no wonder they tend to lash out at both people and property as a way of gaining a feeling of power.” ~Kevin “Mack” McFadden(GM of Stars in Salem, Oregon)
The struggle is real for some strippers. This may be their last option to turn their life around or make it a complete train wreck. The later is what I saw in small markets more rampantly unfortunately. These strippers are not creating their exit plans from the strip club industry, but merely seeking a means to an end. All strippers have a reason for being where they are and doing what they do. Does this mean we owe society an explanation? … No! Not until society can explain to us as women why our bodies are more valuable than our brains, especially during our youth.
Small towns breed small minds and no one can change this fact. It is overwhelmingly apparent in small market strip clubs. Men visit strip clubs to feel better about themselves and have a good time. Therefore, the entertainment(strippers) cannot be better than the customers in any way. Playing dumb becomes the norm for work. There is only so long one can play dumb and learn from others before there is no more patience to learn more from small minds. Small minds who do not realize they are merely a big fish in a very small pond.
Knowledge is free-flowing in strip clubs if one chooses to realize the opportunity to mingle with all walks of life. However, the patience and tolerance it takes to deal with small towns and small minds from both customers and peers is incredibly draining. Playing small-minded, while being a sponge for information does not mix well, however this is how the strip club industry works at its best. Women go into the strip club industry looking for an upper hand when it comes to finances, education, and/or evolution. It is their own personal coping mechanisms that decides how the strip club industry molds them.
The ED Awards(Exotic Dancer Awards) are held annually at the Gentlemen’s Club Owner’s Expo in August. These awards vary in category from Club Favorite Feature Dancer to DJ of The Year. Voting determines the winners and the nominations have started like wild fire.
Be apart of the madness and vote today … There are only five days left to take part in the preliminary nominations!
Strip Club Journal Unbounds June(Unedited Version)
“Everything happens for a reason. Clip my wings and I will still figure out how to fly.” ~Vayda Kiss
Last year when I was interviewing Vayda Kiss for Miss Pole Champ 2015, this was one of the last things she said. Later that month, she crowned Natasha Nova Miss Pole Champ 2015. Then within a couple of months Vayda was gone without warning.
The strip club industry suffered a loss like never before, Vayda Kiss left this world at the young age of 31 in September 2015 never to be replaced. She left behind a huge hole in many people’s hearts, both inside and outside of the adult/strip club industry. A one of a kind beautiful soul, her presence is extremely missed within the small feature dancer/showgirl community. Vayda Kiss aka Nicole LeeAnn Smith was born in Northampton, Massachusetts and had been in the strip club industry for over a decade. She is the only two-time winner of Miss Pole Champ USA. This and many of her other trophys speak of her talent, but her friends speak of her heart and her uplifting personality.
“I worked with her at Wedgewood in NJ and Spanky’s in Easton, PA. The wedge was a dive bar and some days it was slow, but when she was working it was an awesome day whether we made money or not.” ~Lara
Spending time with Vayda Kiss seems to be a blessing many people understood. Her memory is still cherished and protected by many. Unfortunately, no family likes to air their dirty laundry and the strip club industry is like a family. Vayda Kiss committed suicide and no one wants her to be remembered for this. However, it is a perfect example of how people need to give the extra effort when they know a friend is going through a difficult time or situation(even if they should be on top of the world from an outside perspective). Awareness is the goal and Vayda would want to help people with her story.
Some of the dancers Vayda left behind, who still live similar nomadic lives traveling, featuring, and competing, are the ones who are the most guarded about Vayda’s story. Perhaps this is due to all the similarities they see in their own lives and it makes them face their own mortality? How will they be remembered? Will they attempt or commit suicide? Will they be next? Is life about competition? Is winning competitions winning at life? Is it all worth it? Will they survive the lifestyle they chose and are lucky enough to lead? The fear sets in, as it does for us all when defining and choosing a long-term career.
“Vayda was all about forgiving and moving on.” ~Jeremy Sweigert(Vayda’s longtime friend from high school)
Family was something Vayda Kiss was not blessed with in the traditional sense. Her brother committed suicide shortly before she did and she attended her own father’s funeral shortly before her own death. Vayda’s family failed her, but the strip club industry has warm open arms for those who are beautiful, young, lost, and looking for community/family and a way out.The strip club industry became her pseudo family. When your friends and family are all performers, sometimes it is just easier to paint on a smile. However, it took two prior suicide attempts before the third and final time when Vayda succeeded in killing herself. Yes, some depressed people hide their feelings, but these circumstances explain the hardships leading up to her death.
“As we got older she morphed into a sassy little princess into one of the most humble, kindhearted spirits I know. She suffered a lot of loss these last couple years. Didn’t realize just how hard that was on her until I lost her.” ~Ashley(a former dancer and friend Vayda met a decade ago in PA).
Despite all of Vayda’s hardships, she was a ray of light to other people. People would have never guessed she was so humble and willing to help others, even her competition. “There was a period where she was on a roll, winning everything she entered. She would be texting me from back stage about how nervous she was and I gave her pep talks at this time…” ~Bob Layton(owner of http://www.Studio83ExoticClubWear.com). The relationships she developed along her journey were valued, but the strip club industry is a dangerous place for someone seeking the love of family.
The people/acquaintances you work with in strip clubs, who you may even call friends, are really the competition and they are all entertainers/performers too. They all cater to what people want to hear and see. “I am one of those people who values their alone time,” Vayda Kiss. During her feature dancing days Vayda would order pizza(her favorite cheat day food) and stay in her hotel room alone to recharge before a show. She will be remembered for the kind-hearted soul she was, who shines still in our hearts.
For a woman with such a small stature Vayda was larger than life.
“She was the greatest person ever. She cheered me up when people were rude. She showed me that dancing is art not just a job she opened my eyes to a great profession and made me want to follow in her footsteps more.” ~Brittany